Generously forgiving your spouse can make it more possible to survive the affair
and stay together.
I am not discounting or minimizing how hurt you feel and how difficult it can be
to be forgiving of such a betrayal in your marriage.
However, forgiving while still bearing a grudge towards him or her will only poison
the relationship going forward.
Many spouses say they have forgiven an affair but then they will never again trust
Is that really forgiveness? And can a marriage be all that it should be without mutual
I don’t think it can and I hope you don’t either!
Forgiveness for such a traumatizing hurt as an affair will not come easily.
So, don’t rush it or try to sweep it under the proverbial rug.
Take your time! Talk through it. Get the root cause of why the affair happened.
Then when you feel ready to forgive, do so with all the generosity that you can.
Forget the grudge bearing, tight- fisted forgiveness that some couples have in
their relationship with each other.
Marriage requires unrestricted intimacy and closeness.
You will not enjoy that without trust!
Forgive and learn to trust again …