Mary has husband problems – he has cheated on her – and she wants to forgive him because:
She still loves him
This is the first time he has cheated
She wants to save her marriage
Mary is not neither a fool nor a “push over”.
Which is what her family and friends are calling her because of her desire to save her marriage.
It seems that very few of those in her circle are willing to support Mary.
But marriage is between two people and only they should decide if there is something salvageable
left in the relationship.
Before she found herself in this devastating situation Mary always wondered if she could ever
forgive such a betrayal in her marriage.
Now she knows she wants to forgive her husband and take a more active role in trying to prevent
Mary knows that forgiveness will take time and forgetting will never happen.
The two questions that she wants answered before she proceeds with the work to save her marriage are
Does my husband feel empathy for my hurt?
Will he work to ensure it does not happen again?
Regardless of the fact that her family and friends are encouraging her to “leave” and “get out” Mary
feels that the better option for her is to stay instead of running away.
She has seen too many of her friends run from marriage to the next only to repeat the same challenges
of the previous one.
Adultery in a marriage – as painful as it can be- can be viewed as wake up call to a more engaged and
There is much work required to mend what is broken and build a new more honest union.
Couples are a team and no matter how well-meaning outsiders are they should not have a deciding
role in decisions that affect how the team operates.
Mary is determined to make this true in her marriage.