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Survive The Affair And Stay Together

Physical Or Emotional Cheating In Your Marriage

October 7, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Have you experienced the trauma of physical or emotional cheating in your marriage?

Then I am sure you have also read or heard the definitions and distinctions between
the two.

One thing is clear, both of these events inflict immeasurable pain, and depending
on the personality of the victim, they can be equally devastating personally and/or
to the relationship.

The questions have been asked, “What is the difference between emotional and
physical affairs”?
Or, does emotional affairs hurt as much as sexual affairs?

Or, is it cheating if there is no sex”?

For anyone who has experienced the terrible hurt caused by either physical or
emotional cheating in their marriage those questions and others like them are

The only thing these sufferers know for certain is that they are in
unimaginable emotional and psychic pain due to the one-sided action of
someone who they loved (probably still loves)and trusted.

Is is possible to protect your marriage from emotional or physical
Or, to rebuild the relationship if cheating has already happened?

Well, life may seem to hold no 100% guarantees but some efforts
are more than worth the time and energy we put into it.

I believe saving your marriage is worth the effort and hope you do too.

Click on the link below to discover a resource that could help you to:

Break Free From The Affair And Save Your Marriage Forever!

Is Divorce Really Your Only Option?

September 26, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

If you have asked yourself if divorce is really your only option for challenges in your
marriage, then my guess is that you are looking for ways to save your marriage; not
end it.

For many couples divorce seems to come as a knee-jerk reaction to any and all issues
in their relationship.

Sometimes spouses threaten each other with divorce as a means to getting their
own way in the relationship.

I  have asked myself why this is so.

It takes two people to make a marriage work successfully: yet very often it only
takes one to decide to end it.

I am not saying that if one spouse truly wants out that the other spouse can hold them
against their will, or fulfill the marriage commitment on their own.

What often happens though, is that one person proposes divorce and the other partner
becomes hurt and offended, feels rejected and goes along even though that is not what they want.

No matter how egregious the offense “is divorce really your only option”?

If you are committed to doing what it takes to avoid divorce and save your marriage then I


Avoid The Seven Deadly Mistakes A Man Makes After His Woman Cheats.

August 22, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Avoid the seven deadly mistakes a man makes after his woman cheats!

If YOU want to Survive Her Affair

Much has been written about how to
survive an affair when the man is the
cheater … but women cheat as well!

So, if your wife has had an affair and you want help to survive the
devastating emotional fallout of being cheated on, then
read on … and discover how to:
avoid the seven deadly mistakes a man makes after his woman cheats

I just found this incredible page that shows you how to recover as fast as possible if you
have discovered that your wife has cheated on you.

New research shows that 91% of men who have been cheated on say it’s the most
difficult experience they have ever gone through.

And because men generally have a challenge in expressing their feelings and emotions
then getting the help they need to cope can be left unmet.

Even “manly” guys are brought to tears when their wife is unfaithful.

When the pain is THIS intense, you need help getting through it.

And there’s no shame in reaching out for help.

This is what Survive Her Affair is about! Helping the male faced with the pain and
rejection of his cheating wife.

That is not to say that this betrayal is worse than a man’s cheating.

It is just that men are often less open about sharing their hurts and even rage in this

Avoid The Seven Deadly Mistakes A Man Makes After His Woman Cheats

Why You Should Not Get Divorced

July 14, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Why you should not get divorced until you have exhausted all other options.

Note: Your can change your heart and change your life to achieve the great
love that you desire.
Read the book by Gary Smalley who is renowned for guiding relationships
back from brokenness.
The Wholehearted Marriage: Fully Engaging Your Most Important Relationship

Very often couples get divorced too precipitiously and then regret it.
Even if the reason you want to divorce is serious; such as an affair or other
non-abusive behavior by you or your partner.

How To Know If You Should Get A Divorce

Don’t let emotions sweep you away on a sea of anger and bitterness.
Infidelity hurts and produces feelings of betrayal and rejection in the victim.

However, you do not want to let your negative emotions lead your reaction to get
a divorce and then realize that you made a mistake.

If there is any love left between to two of you then you should postpone ending
your marriage and work on discovering if re-building your relationship is possible.
Dr. Phil says  he believes that “most Americans are too quick to get divorced”.

He advises that couples should not consider divorce until:

  • They have turned over every stone and investigated all rehabilitation possibilities
  • They ensure that they have no unfinished emotional business
  • They have researched, planned and prepared themselves legally
  • They are ready to adopt a new standard of conduct with their children
  • They are willing to create a new relationship as a co-parent.

Read Dr. Phil’s informative, insightful and instructive article below:
Calling It Quits: Are You Ready For Divorce?


Discover Your Steps To Recovery After Cheating

June 18, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Discover your steps to recovery after cheating has traumatized your marriage; which you will need
whether you are the cheater or the victim.

All the rage and guilt of cheating has to be dealt with in a productive
way if you hope to save the marriage or relationship from further damage.

Download Your Copy Of The Survive The Affair Special Here

In the immediate aftermath of the cheating in your marriage you may not be certain that
you want to stay together, but you want to ensure you take time to decide.

So the best thing to do is to get help in making this decision.

Fortunately for you Dr. Frank Gunzburg has created a proven marriage saving solution
to help you navigate the choppy waters of the relationship after the discovery
or revelation of cheating.

Dr. Gunzburg has helped thousands of couples in his marriage counseling practice.

If  you or your spouse has had an affair and you are struggling to keep from going
insane with:

Then this program solution could help you calm down and survive the affair.
Download your copy of Steps To Recovery After Cheating Now!


Think your marriage can’t be healed? Feel the relationship is beyond repair?
Don’t give up on yourself or your spouse before reading this heartfelt manual by
Gary Smalley …
Desperate Marriages: Moving Toward Hope and Healing in Your Relationship

Couples who want to survive the affair and stay together should ensure that they
resist outside interference from family and friends, no matter how well intentioned
these individuals may be.

No one can truly judge your relationship, except you and your spouse.

The most important steps you can take with each other is to:

  • Communicate with respect
  • Take as much time as you both need

Whatever decision you make about your marriage it should be one you both can live with
and not regret because you felt pressured to look for consensus from others.

Can I Save The Marriage Even If Only I Want To?

June 11, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Can I save the marriage even if only I want to?
Cindy says her marriage is a wreck buried under
years of unresolved anger, resentment and an almost
total lack of trust and respect.

What is worse is that her husband, Marshall, either is
unaware of the situation or doesn’t care.
She is not even sure if he has had an affair because they
just don’t connect on any level.
Read Gary Smalley’s hopeful and helpful book about giving your
marriage one more try before giving up.
One More Try: What to Do When Your Marriage Is Falling Apart

Cindy has awakened to the alarming possibility that she might have
to give up on the marriage if things don’t improve dramatically
and fast.

In other words the status quo must go!

This is the situation that has made her ask, “can I save the marriage even if only
I want to”?

Establish Boundaries And SaveThe Marriage 150x150You see at this point Cindy is not sure if Marshall is
still interested in either her or their life together.

They have lived separate lives under the same
roof for so long that they have become more like
roommates than spouses.

The only thing Cindy is certain of is that she still
loves Marshall and want to remain married to him.

So, where to begin to save the marriage?

This Save The Marriage program gives four marriage saving myths
that Cindy must avoid:

Myth One:
Learning more communication skills
Sometimes this only helps the couple fight more effectively and hastens
the destruction of the relationship.
Better communication starts in the heart! You start by being honest
with each other . Become vulnerable about your needs, wants, hopes
and dreams.

Myth Two:

There is only one “path” back from the brink of divorce to marital bliss.
Actually, there are eight specific paths and they must taken strategically
to optimize the goal of saving the marriage.
Cindy will need to learn exactly which stage of marriage crisis she is facing
and the steps to take going forward.

Myth Three:

You can’t start saving your marriage by yourself! Not true …
Eventually it will take two to save the marriage; but initially you can get the ball
rolling by using the negative energy in your relationhip to turn things around.

Myth Four:

Time Heals All
This is probably the most damaging myth of all; because it implies that if you
do nothing things will just magically work out.
How has that been working?
Not well and now your marriage is in danger of dying.
It is critical that you step up and start saving your marriage before it gets to a point
of no return.

Is Facebook Hazardous To Your Relationship?

June 6, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Is Facebook hazardous to your relationship and does it encourage cheating?

This question is asked and answered here in the following opinion piece and
study published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking.

One reason that facebook and other social network sites is thought of as encouraging
and enabling cheating is:

  • The ease of connecting with someone new or
  • Reconnecting with an old flame.
  • Plus the anonymity of these contacts

Whether you agree or disagree that facebook is hazardous to your relationship it cannot
be denied that for some people these programs make it easier to cross the line seemingly
without consequence.

Have you asked yourself if facebook is hazardous to your relationship?

What would you do if you discovered that your spouse or romantic partner was
cyber cheating on you?

Read why “Cheating Has Never Been Easier”

Read James Bauer’s Facebook Encourages Cheating Here!

The Huffington Post also did an article about Facebook cheating.

They pose the question “Do you know the signs of a social media affair”?

Stating that “cheating is easier than ever before and that it was a much greater
logistic challenge to cheat before we had texting.”

While these new technologies do not cause cheating, they are increasingly being used
to carry out this devastating betrayal to some extent.

Whether you are cheating yourself or have a social media cheating spouse maybe it is time
to stop and think about the consequences and ultimate cost to your relationship.

Why Many Marriages Do Not Survive Cheating

May 15, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Many marriages do not survive cheating because of :

  • The false pride of the victimized spouse, and
  • Worrying about what others will think if you work to save the marrige.

Please don’t get me wrong!
I am not condoning cheating and the horrific blow that it can deliver
to the victim and the relationship.

There  are many reasons given by the cheater; but, there is no excuse to be
made for the terrible betrayal of infidelity.
And for some spouses that is just too much to forgive and forget; in that
case all they can do is call it quits.

Secrets To Survive The Affair Together 150x150However, many more marriages could survive  the affair
if the couple would be left alone to work it through without
the wronged party being made to feel like a fool for wanting
to do so.

This is one of the biggest barriers to success in surviving
cheating in a marriage!
I watched an episode of Family Feud yesterday where the
host Steve Harvey asked the contestants this question:
“What are the reasons that a woman might not leave her cheating husband?”
The third most given answer was because,” She is just plain stupid”!

Does anyone willingly want to be thought of as stupid?
I think not!

So, of course if a woman’s husband has cheated on her and she has
friends who think she would be stupid to stay in the marriage; what do you
think she would do even if she still loves her husband?

Thankfully the number one answer to the Family Feud question above
was that the woman stayed because she still loved her husband.

Marriages are not perfect!
Human beings are not perfect!

That is why the marriage vows say “for better or for worse”.

Couples seem to block those words out of their minds as soon as they utter

Ideally you would never cause each other even one moment of unhappiness
or pain, but that is unlikely.

The best approach is to learn to be forgiving and kind to each other even through
an event as traumatic and heart-breaking as adultery.

Read what the Huffington Post has to say about how your marriage can survive
and thrive after infidelity.

Women cheat too!
Men feel just as hurt when they discover that their wife is cheating.
Even if he still loves her and wants to stay in the marriage he needs help to
cope with the devastating emotional pain caused by her affair.
Normally, he would turn to his wife for support but since  it is her action that
is the direct cause for his pain and suffering it is not his option now.

So, he needs more objective help and solutions.

Click Here If Your Wife Has Cheated And You Want To Survive Her Affair

Will My Wife Ever Love Me Again?

April 23, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

Will My Wife Ever Love Me Again?

Some husbands feel trapped in what they perceive to be a loveless marriage.
Others  have already separated emotionally from the relationship and may
even have had an affair or moved out of the marital home.

But if you are a husband who still love your wife and find yourself wondering,
“Will My Wife Ever Love Me Again”?

The Magic of Making Up 150x150The answer is “Yes” it is possible!
With effort, patience and persistence you can very often
rekindle the loving feelings you onced shared for each

Has you wife told you she doesn’t love?
If she has not, then even though she is behaving cold and
distant towards you then it is possible to warm her up and
bring her close to you again.

Sometimes her reason(s) for acting this way may just be due
to some other personal issues that she is experiencing.
Talk with her and re-assure her that you are there for her no matter what.

Even if she has told you that she doesn’t love you and has even convinced you
of this assertion it is still possible to re-ignite the love she once had for you.

First of all, acknowledge that this disconnect did not come about overnight.
There were warning signs that you ignored or did not read correctly.
So, it will take time to put your relationship back on track.

This will usually be a slow and tentative process requiring respectful, honest
and heartfelt communication.
However, this might not be the first steps to getting your wife to love you
You will first have to listen to what she says she needs to began rebuilding
the love and intimacy in your relationhip.

For example, if your wife is emphatic that she just needs some time or
space, then do not badger her about how you need to start communicating
more. The time for that will come!

She will not feel like talking at this point in time.
Instead, allow her as much time and space as she needs.
Don’t ask her how much time she needs or give her a “deadline”.
Let her know that you are willing to accept this distance for now.
This is an important step for many reasons.

First of all, this concession shows her that you are strong enough to let her go
and go on without her for a while.
Second, it gives her the opportunity to see if she misses having you around.
Remember that you can give her space even if you are living under the same roof.
Treat her as if she is a colleague at work.
Be cordial and courteous, but not intimate.
Being unavailable to her works especially well if you have been begging, clingy or
demanding up to this point.

That type of needy behavior tends to push people away even further.
So now doing the opposite will allow her to compare and experience what it
is like to have you there for her and what it’s like for you to be absent.
This in itself is very powerful.
During your time “off”, make sure that you take care of yourself, eat well, exercise
if possible, get enough sleep (even if it’s on the couch), and take time to go out
with your friends, spend more quality time with the kids, or just spend some time alone.

When you’ve gone through this phase, you can start taking some steps that will
open up communication between the two of you and bring a resounding Yes! to the
question of “Will my wife ever love me again“?

You can start by asking her out on a quiet “date night” or a weekend away and
let her start talking to you about what she sees as the problem.
You don’t have to agree, just listen and let her have her say.
Follow her lead and don’t rush or pressure her to resolve all the challenges in one
evening or weekend.

Establish Boundaries In Romantic Relationships

March 27, 2014 by Yvonne Finn

The way to establish boundaries in romantic relationships is to know
yourself first.

Many romantic partners do not allow their complete indentity to
show through until after the relationship is established.

Moreover, some couples feel that there should not be any limits
to the access they have to one another.

It is in fact imperative that couples establish boundaries in
romantic relationships.

Because no matter how loving or intimate a marriage or marriage-like
relationship is; each of you is still and will always be a unique

Choosing to be in a marriage or long-term relationship does not
mean that you give up who you are.

It means that you bring your specialness to the other person and to
the union to form a new creation.
In creating and maintaining this new entity, you do not have to relinguish
your selfhood and should not expect or ask the other person to do so.

Establish Boundaries And SaveThe Marriage 150x150Establish boundaries in romantic relationships or marriages with
the guide on the left.

Keeping a strong individual indentity does not mean you love your spouse any less.

Just the reverse is true!
It means you trust your mate enough to let them see and get to know
and love the real you. Strengths and weaknesses. Likes and dislikes.

Establishing boundaries and being yourself allows your life partner
to feel free and secure enough to be authentically themselves without fear of your rejection.
The strength of the relationship and the bond that holds you together should
be in your willingness to support each other, not because you own them.

Boundaries protect inside and outside the marriage!

You can establish your own personal space requirements and learn and accept
your partner’s as well.

One Boundaries To Establish Is In:


Couples expect and hope to be loved unconditionally in romantic relationships.
However, there are times when this ideal must not and cannot be maintained.
No one deserves to live with abuse!
If your spouse is abusing you and will not stop or seek help, then you must
protect yourself by establishing boundaries tot he extent of your self- love.

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